The Ultimate Blow Job, Letting Him Come in Your Mouth and Swallowing

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This is my top read post for over two years.  It has been downloaded thousands of times and my blog is now well over 200,000 page views.  It says that blow jobs are still the most controversial and underpracticed by women.  Women, you need to get over your inhibitions and disgust over this.  This is one of the great ways to show love for your man along with occasionally talking dirty in bed.  If you want more romance you need to be willing to romance your man in return.  I suggest the big 3 for men, lacy and frilly lingerie with color, giving him a good blow job once in a while and once in a while talking dirty to him.  Try it my way for just thirty days as an experiment and see how great it does for your man and your relationship

It is not even my blog post but a guest blog by a woman who agrees with me about what a woman should do sexually for a man. In that vein I am reposting the blog. Even today, it outpulled my main page blog post.

This is another guest post from a woman who has been reading my blog named Sharon and who agrees with me and my sexual posts. She encourages women to give their men the ultimate blow job as do I. Nothing will make him feel more special and more masculine than when you get over your inhibitions and learn to swallow his come. If you do this, you virtually make your man untemptable by another woman.

SWALLOWING YOUR MAN’S CUM LOAD
Ladies ladies ladies……….
What is the big deal of swallowing your man’s semen when you are giving him head. I’m sure you try new foods from time to time and different drinks from time to time or new candies or cookies from time to time.

And swallowing your man’s cum is just another taste of something. It comes from your man’s body which is not dirty, he has a sexual organ different than our own but even so his semen is unique to his body. It is one of the ultimate pleasures for a man to know that his woman will do that and appreciate the maleness that he has and the man that he is and all the masculinity that defines him.

Why would you not want to give your man the most – he is always willing and eager to please his woman. He never winces at the thought of eating you, or licking you, or sucking you. It turns him on to do this for you because he knows it pleases you with all those good feelings. And because he knows it turns you on – it ultimately turns him on knowing that he turns you on. So do not treat him any less by refusing to swallow his cum. You can start off small, by having him shoot it onto your body and you finger some up and taste it and do not make a face. When you get bolder have him shoot it to the back of your throat so you won’t get a full force of tasting him. And when you get bolder, it’s not bad to have a bottle of water there close by to wash it down. Doing this ladies will keep you close to your man’s heart because he will know in his mind that you take his ultimate load with no problem and that alone turns him on.

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About John Wilder

I am a marriage, relationship and sexual coach. I am one of a handful of clinicians who treat clients holistically, dealing with all 3 aspects of our being; mind, body and spirit.

  • anonymous

    I was wondering if you would mind deleting all of my posts. Even though I’ve posted primarily as anonymous, now that that one post is out there I am not comfortable with this stuff online. Do you mind? Thanks

  • http://marriagecoach1.wordpress.com marriagecoach1

    Well in the blog world, it won’t matter if I delete all your posts. It actually helps that you leave the anonymous posts up to dilute your comment. Besides no one is going to relate your one post to the anonymous post. Not to mention that you made good comments as well as I have given good answers. I will only if you demand it, but technically since I own the blog I am not required to. Out or respect for you I will delete your comments if you demand that I do so

  • anonymous

    No, I won’t demand. No problem. It may be helpful to someone.

  • http://marriagecoach1.wordpress.com marriagecoach1

    Thanks, I appreciate it, it is for that reason that I do the blog, to help people have happier and more fulfilling relationships as well as sex lives. There is a lot of lousy sex going on out there as well as bad relationships

  • http://paralaxvu.wordpress.com paralaxvu

    I really don’t wanna read through all these comments before giving my own because I know there are all sorts of people and all sorts of tastes. So this is just my own, 67-year-old opinion. I don’t like the texture of all sorts of foods. Fried okra and fresh oysters feel slimy to me, and I don’t like slimy. It reminds me of snot…or maybe I just don’t like snot because it’s slimy too. Yeah, I’ve tasted it. Different guys’ semen tastes different, too–some of it tastes okay and some of it tastes, I don’t know, not-okay, and some of it doesn’t taste at all. Something tells me there are lots of people out there,young and old, who have never come down on each other and still have a pleasurable sexual life. It’s like a lot of things in life: if being pleasured in that way is something you love and would miss, then you probably shouldn’t be with someone who doesn’t love–or even like–it.(a good reason for sex before marriage, I would venture to say).To me, it’s like putting down someone who doesn’t like scotch, even after trying it, which everyone says one has to do in order to learn to like scotch) To each his/her own, without making fun of or scorning someone whose tastes aren’t the same. As I said, this is all my own opinion, take it or leave it. Just don’t put me down for it.

    • http://marriagecoach1.wordpress.com marriagecoach1

      Hey Para
      Everyone is entitled to set their own boundaries. I am just saying most men dearly love
      blow jobs and feel loved. Perhaps you could do it with a guy wearing a condom. I am not
      putting you down for it.

      John

      • http://paralaxvu.wordpress.com paralaxvu

        Didn’t think you were putting me down, just felt the guest lady blogger was laying it on pretty thick—you should excuse the expression;-)

  • http://karensdifferentcorners.wordpress.com karensdifferentcorners

    I’m going to reply to this one just like I reply to all the other marriage help blogs and post. Why is it always the woman’s work to keep the marriage happy?
    He runs around all weekend in a ratty t-shirt, holey jeans, doesn’t shave or shower, and yet you are supposed to be sexy, smell nice, and give him a blow job so he’ll stay with you? Hello! Marriage is a two way street and there should be more to it then just sex.

    • Marriagecoach1

      Hey Karen
      I could not agree with you more. I don’t begin to suggest that it is only the woman’s job to keep the marriage
      going and I take on both men and women on an equal basis. What I don’t get from the men when I take them
      on is a lot of verbal abuse like I am singling them out. I actually take on men more so than I do women.
      But statistics don’t lie, 78% of married women over 30 have their husbands on a starvation diet of sex once a
      week or less.

      • BurningSun

        Hey Coach1,

        I’m part of that 78% married for 24 years the sex is from anywhere from once a month to once every 3-4 months or one time it was over a year I was being punished I guess because of the economy (reduce work on 1 income while she stayed at home with the children) money has be tight but we where surviving. So far I’m hanging in there not sure how long anymore.

        You are correct about the ego of dominance or the trying to be by some women my wife included, the only thing some of them have is the withholding of sex and or the use of the word of GOD in the wrong interpretation, I’ll give you a couple examples:

        Anal sex is Sodomy (we did it before, not now) and any man who does that may have homosexual tendencies

        That asking for sex is a showing of a lack of self control

        If your spouse cannot have the joy of an organism when you do then your spouse should wait and not be so selfish in their needs

        I have heard it all, she blows off the Christian ladies who tell her that it is a duty and a need for both by the both of (that goes over well). Yet she will devote herself to getting up early to read the word and tell people all day long how GOD is able and how everyone ought to do dah dah dah. When we do have sex I give but only receive every now and then never a completion (use to before) and maybe if I’m lucky just 1 time a year in the mouth (quickly she spites it out and then brushes quickly, the consistency is odd she says).

        I told her honey, I will not chase after a dangling carrot like a horse, it’s been to long for all that non-sense and plus we have the word of GOD let’s go there for answers. That’s a battle

        My favorite bible teacher did an very straight forward series on marriage and when he got to the sex part coach, you could see and hear the feminist in the room.. it was “Well that’s his point of view from the scripture” say what! his just read from the bible the word for word and he quoted the same verse you quoted.

        Before I turned over my sinful life to the everlasting PRINCE of PEACE we engaged in different types of sex (anal, oral w/swallowing, handjobs, end of cycle sex with a towel etc.) now all this she has convinced herself or she uses this excuse that those types of acts or non-christ like and from our old sinful way of life.

        I Had a couple girlfriends that did a wonderful job of full completion and others I cut loose when they told me they don’t do oral but yet they expected it from me except 2 others (1 her step-dad said only nasty females do that and the other said her mother told her never let a man stick his hot dog in your mouth or between your buns)

        Had a Christian counselor friend who spoke just like you, he would just blow holes in peoples ideal about sex and then dared you to put it against scripture (he holds a masters in divinity from Baylor) He was very good learn much from him about the freedom will have in marriage concerning sex between a husband and wife (not 3rd persons, no animals and no unwanted pain unless pain is your thang)

        Just wanted to add my 2 frustrated cents in the mix and please keep us in your prayers

        Sonny

        • Marriagecoach1

          Hey Sonny
          I feel your pain and your frustration. Tell her that you want her to do counselling with you
          about this with a Christian counselor. I will give you both a free half hour consultation.
          John Wilder

        • Marriagecoach1

          Hey Sonny
          I am sorry that I did not reply sooner to your eloquent post.
          I would like to offer you and your wife a half hour free phone
          consultation with me if you like to help you.
          John Wilder

          • BurningSun

            Hello Coach1,

            Sorry for the delay between getting children to and from school and being self-employed hinders me from a making a quick reply.

            The weekend did not go great we had a huge blow-out and all the stops where pulled out, and after so many I’ll get rid of you and my relatives told me (she speaking) she just settled blah blah blah, I said then get busy and start your planning. I said I will not go for all this down talking and all the things I’m suppose to do while she do nothing and that includes not wanting to be intimate or me running after a carrot on a string. Then she fired back with a few relationship she had where she was intimate with the individual and that she should have married one of them, not wanting to hide my past which she only knows briefly about somethings because when I married I chose to move forward but I just let her have it. Told her that I’m not innocent and that I never dated an ugly women both inside and out, I would kick you to the curb if I detected any such joy killing, well that got her going and a little surprised for she never knew who I was involved with because I find such conversation as childish. I told her I hope you don’t try the no sex, talking back and getting angry with the next person because there are some people out there that could careless about how you feel about anything and if it ain’t happening at home then they can and will get it else where”, she said well that’s great you could not even wish me well for I would wish you well! of come now I told her I could careless if she did or did not let’s figure out how to best raised the children without all this bickering and move on from here.

            It’s been quiet since Sunday, today is Wednesday she been getting home after 6:00pm so I keep making dinner every night and getting the children taken care of and working late until 1-2:00 am from home (this happen every time she takes a job teaching she comes home and within an hour she sound asleep) I do the shopping for food, make the school lunches, get our daughter to school and meet both of them when they get home, stay at home until she gets home and if (HER) car is not a point of argument then I’ll go to the office and work until about 12:00am or 1:00am

            If she was in the right frame of mind I would welcome the chance to have you speak to both of us but if I mention it now or even if I did even before the blow up she would not have anything nice to say about it, you, me or the likes, she thinks the internet and technology is harmful, she thinks if a women goes to work then the man must not be taking care of his family (if I say wait she say’s I’ll get a job if I want it), no women should have to do anything intimate if she feels she does not want to, sex is not a cure for marriage, anyone meeting or taking advice from someone on the internet is looney, and people who don’t plan will not do well (of course this only applies to finances or getting ahead financially of course). I said If money and or sex made marriage work then Donald Trump, Elizabeth Taylor and Hugh Hefner, then all these people would never be on marriage 3, 5, 6 (her dad is on #5 he’ll leave the ladies including the mom because they where not chasing the same dream he had and they did not support him, they wanted family and just to enjoy each other not him he’s fantasy all the way, he’s earn millions and lost it and now he wants millions again and notoriety)

            So how about we keep in touch and let’s see where this quiet leads too, she at least says goodbye in the morning with small orders to do something (I just wave) now and a thank you when I served her dinner last night like I always do but when she’s mad which seem like all the time I have to wash my own clothes and fill my own glass of water but I’ll jump at any chance to help anybody rather you hit me or choose not to be nice to me it’s CHRIST LIKE YOU KNOW (smile)

            Just a sucker for wanting to help, but I think I’m being stepped on and the last pastor from the church I spoke with when she parted a few years ago he said then let her take care of the children when they are with her, pickup and drop off from school, drop off locations, days at each parents home, holidays, school lunches, food and daycare and such (they have never been in a daycare or any ones care) and let her know this is the way it is, put it all in writing EVERYTHING and both of you agree SHE REFUSED and was HOT.

            Coach she came unglued and call me a lair and then she said she called the church and the pastor said he did not say that, she looked for everyone to be on her side saying that those action are not fair. My fault for saying it was him, he never returned my call but I got his point MAN UP and lay it out like it is. Did have some peace for a spell after that storm cleared.

            Let’s keep in touch ok I’ll write back soon with updates and thank you again for your kindness and generosity, hope we can someday soon take you up on your offer.

            Your Brother in Christ

            Peace in HIM

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    • Marriagecoach1

      Thanks Lanora

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    • Marriagecoach1

      Thanks Jaime
      I really try to help
      John

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    • Marriagecoach1

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  • Angel

    Ok here is my problem my Wife hates to perform oral and will not swallow she did it once and threw up on me. My issue is that my ex would Blow me almost everyday and she will swallow but she would do it in a way that she would enjoy it I feel like I need it I don’t know if I am addicted but that’s all in my mind I don’t. Know what to do.

    • Marriagecoach1

      Women are different. Reinforce to your wife how good it feels when she does give you head

      • Angel

        She knows that I love it and she will try but its not good cause she doesn’t like it. Am I addicted because of my prior relationship?

        • Marriagecoach1

          Do it with the lights on and spread chocolate syrup on your dick and have her look into your eyes and face while doing it so she can see how much pleasure she is giving you. With the chocolate she too can have pleasure. She can even spread more chocolate syrup on when she sucks it clean. Try that and let me know how that works for you

  • LolA89

    I recently started doing this with my boyfriend because I love him and I feel like it is a good way of saying it but afraid if he sees me any different for doing it???

    • Marriagecoach1

      Yes LoLA89, he does see you differently, as a more sophisticated and sexual woman who gives him love
      the way that he wants it. blessings on you and yours. Perhaps you could share this message with
      your sisters who refuse to give their men blow jobs
      John Wilder

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  • Rojansca

    My problem is that I want to swallow and finish him completely, but I can’t stand the taste of the semen. I’ve tried multiple times, and it always gags and nauseates me. Is there anything I can do about this?

    • Marriagecoach1

      It would help me to have some more facts. It sounds like you can let him come in your mouth but you can’t swallow, is that correct.
      One way is to coat his Penis (dick) with chocolate syrup and keep recoating as you suck on him and it comes off. This will saturate
      your taste buds with sweet chocolate flavor. If the idea of him coming in your mouth at all is a problem, you could start by having
      him put on a condom that way you can finish him to completion and not have the come in your mouth.

      Another suggestion is to not try to block the ejaculation but let him come in the back of your mouth and swallow. In this way
      you don’t have to taste it because all your taste buds are on the front of your tongue. Let me know more details.
      John

      • Rojansca

        Thank you, your chocolate suggestion helped, I am getting better at it. Much appreciated!

    • anonymous

      from a woman who is queen of the blow job (happens to be my fave thing) if you are doing it right nothing should even hit your mouth or tongue. it will hit your throat… open it up just like when you guzzle a drink of water… rhythmically swallow in tune with the spurts. you have no taste buds in the back of the throat. take note next time your drinking what your throat is doing and practise.

      • Marriagecoach1

        Hey Anonymous
        thanks for dropping by and telling other women from woman’s point of view
        that taking a penis in the mouth is natural and normal. Could you explain more
        about all the affirmations you get from the man in your life because of what
        you do for him?”
        John

        • anonymous

          honestly a girl who just does not enjoy it cannot be made to. I just happen to show love this way. I think the key thing is for couples to talk openly and honestly about what they are really into sexually…be open minded..never laugh or judge preferences and be honest. sex is very important to me in a relationship and to some not so much. People think it is wrong to put sex at the top of a priority list but it is the one thing you reserve for one person. it is the one thing you do together that sets you apart from all other relationships in your life. if you dont jive…save the trouble and breakup. Find someone sexually compatable. Its important!!!

          However I will say that the blow job is the perfect sex act for both partners. The performer experiences an incredible sense of power but vulnerability at the same time. The recipient also gets this magical power plus vulnerability. The intimacy when you lock eyes is incredible..its love..truly. And men have major issues when it comes to that part of their body that correlate to the very essence of their manhood. A blowjob reinforces so much positive emotion in them.

          And make sure its really wet and dont forget there are other things to play with in the area not just the dick and balls… you can scrape a man off the ceiling lol. have fun with eachother.

          PS: I have a jewellery box full of engagemeny rings. Every bf I have had has proposed lol.

          • Marriagecoach1

            Hey Anonymous
            I appreciate your answer to the very inhibited women who have told me that I am a misogynist
            and I should reinforce their prejudices on my audience. I am trying to help people, both men
            and women have better sex and relationships. Thanks again for your very cogent answer.
            John Wilder

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  • Greg

    I am a man who has sucked the penises of several men and never gave it a thought on whether or not to swallow. Swallowing his semen is just part of the natural experience in my opinion plus if one withdraws a mouth prematurly he does not receive the maximum sexual pleasures coupled with the fact it is cleaner to simply swallow it.

    • Marriagecoach1

      Hey Greg
      How common is it in the gay world for a guy to give a blow job and not swallow? Just curious to see
      if there are others that share women’s distaste for the taste and consistency. I have had women withdraw right
      when I am ready to come and it is a HUGE LETDOWN, I hear you.
      John Wilder

  • Rosy

    I have been with my husband for almost 20 years. I love sex, especially turning my man on. It turns me on big time, consequently turning him on even more. I want to please him in every way, but he is shy, conservative.

    • Rosy

      Just recently, I started telling him while performing oral sex that I wanted to eat his semen, but he would withdraw… something I truly appreciated, since I really wasn’t convinced yet. I can’t stand the smell….
      But last night I finally had the courage to do it since he was going away on a trip. I sure did want him to want to run back home…to me… and after last night, I think, I am sure he will.

      • Rosy

        After he came in my mouth, I continued to massage his shaft with my mouth, twirling my tongue on and around his head, and sucking more gently now. I didn’t swallow though, I just held it, but enjoyed torturing him with pleasure. HE WENT NUTS!!!!.

        How I dealt with the smell? I held it in the back of my mouth while sucking. I spat later in the sink, and immediately washed my mouth with mouth wash, drank lots of water and chewed peppermint gum. Ran back and hopped right back on my man to fuck his brains out… M-I-N-D-B-L-O-W-I-N-G!!!!

        Furthermore, during this new experience, I told him I wanted him to tell me how it felt, and what he wanted. I turns him on to talk dirty while we do it. Let me tell you, that drove me even crazier for my man… I want him to come home so I can do this again. I am sure he won’t withdraw anymore.

        • Marriagecoach1

          Rosy thanks for dropping by and leaving comments. Your husband is a lucky man to have you.
          For your next trick, why not engage him in a conversation about fantasies and ask him what his are
          and you promise not to get mad at him or shame him and then give him the ones you feel comfortable with.

          John Wilder

  • john

    You sound blow job obsessed to me, also cum is’nt food. I am a male and i find posts like these by blow job cum eating obsessed men to be downright insulting to the male mentality. I have a wonderful girlfriend who appreciates me in ways i never thought i could be appreciated and makes me feel like a man. But she dosen’t swallow and its not a big deal, its just not that important and its wrong to say someone should or should not do something. Just because u want women to swallow ur cum this does not necessitate evidence that she should. Its your belief.

    Its quotes like this which really annoy me “If you really want to be cherished by your husband, and you want to show him your love, you need to learn to give him good blow jobs. Any woman can lay there with her legs spread and think about other things while her poor husband pumps away at her.”
    Im sorry but my wife is already really cherished by me and she shows me probably more love then i show her (i do go down) but she is so caring and kind and does so much for mel. I feel loved when she cooks me my favorite meal and makes sure i am looker after supported and cared for in every way. You also seem to infer from this quote that the only alternative to a loving bj is disinterested mechanical going through the motions sex. This just shows how little you know about sex we have a great sex life and my wife is very passionate and loving in it as there is so much more to amazing love making then cum swallowing. Would i like it if she swallowed? sure its be a bot of a thrill but its not that important and i never push her at all to try to do it as i am left fully satisfied already.
    You can get a hooker to swallow your load but there is no love there and cum swallowing just dosen’t have much to do with love and the idea that’s almost implied with your writing that if she dosen’t swallow then she dosen’t fully love u is just rubbish and an insult to wonderful wives like mine.
    Its just sexual taste and preference and as humans we all have different ways of expressing our sexuality.

    • Marriagecoach1

      John
      I approved your very negative comments like I do with the few that I get. My positive comments to negative comments
      are like a 1,000 to 1.

      Most guys rate a great sex life as a woman willing to give him a blow job to completion. I am glad that you are
      happy with your sex life and that is why I write this blog to improve people’s sex lives as well as relationships

      John Wilder

    • Marriagecoach1

      Hey John
      I have published your negative comments as I do for all negative comments
      There are not very many if you read through my blogs. Swallowing come
      feels fulfilling for most men. The implication of not letting a man
      come in a woman’s mouth or her spitting out his semen is that men bad
      and women good. Ineterestly, the taste of semen and women’s vaginal secretions
      often taste very similar.

      John Wilder

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