How to Date “Out of Your League” Women?
You must have heard that phase in life when you have been coming across a plethora of women in your life only to realize that most of them are above your level. This feeling of perceived inferiority might arise due to the difference in financial status, intellectual level, or the physical looks of the girl you’re eying.
Does this mean that there are really a bunch of women who are above your reach? Well, to be honest, there are a bunch of women who are difficult for you to catch and date but that doesn’t mean that you cannot make it happen. It’s just that you need to have the right approach and try hard enough.
This is why relationship experts suggest that you must have confidence in your abilities to attract women naturally and overcome this fear of inferiority to make the right first approach for the whole thing to work out. In case you are still jittery about the same and having second thoughts about making your move, take the following 2 tips into account in order to help you out:
1. Concentrate On The Chemistry
Remember that it is chemistry and chemistry alone (along with the other necessary ingredients like romance, trust and belief) that is needed for having a successful date and a relationship with your partner. As long as you have ensured the presence of chemistry in the scenario the rest will automatically fall in place and you need worry about losing her in the face of rising adversities regarding the financial and other differences. This is why relationship experts are of the opinion that you must have the zing factor in you to ignite the chemistry between you and the woman from the first date itself in order to keep her glued to you.
One way to make that chemistry happen is to control the conversation, no I don’t mean being a bullyhere. If you are not a good conversationalist here is a tip that guarantees chemistry. Keep asking her questions about herself and then look into her eyes and pay close attention to the answers. For example here are some great leading questions: What are your goals in life, where do you see yourself 5 years from now, what do you do to have fun, if money were no object, where would you love to travel. What kinds of things do you see as romantic. If God said that you have been a good girl and He is going to find the ideal man for you but you have to give him a complete description of that man so that God could find him and bring him to you, what would that be? When you dream of “happily ever after, what does that consist of for you? Think up some more questions on your own and keep asking her the questions. In this way you can control the conversation to your benefit. She will be IMPRESSED with you asking her questions about her instead of bragging on yourself and will be impressed with you and want to go out with you. You can do this with girls that you have never met, for example you can go up to a girl and ask her the God question because you would really like to know and score a date with her
This will ensure that she is ready to overlook the financial barriers or appearance barriers when it comes to dating you and being in a relationship with you. If you have successfully laid out the chemistry in front of you, you can rest assured that the rest of the problems will smoothen out over time. This is extremely important when you think that you are reaching for a woman who is above your standards.
2. Be Honest
There are instances when men, owing to their inflated ego have ended up creating a false identity regarding their lifestyle and financial affluence in order to win the woman whom they want to impress but consider being above their standards. This is the first thing that you must avoid doing when faced with a similar kind of situation. You will need to be honest to her about where you stand and what your limitations are and remember that women prefer an honest middle class guy over a rich lying bastard any given day. Play on this point and ensure that you impress her with your downright honesty rather than your absentee bank balance.
- Women want to be romanced and not bullshitted. They want to feel special because of you. Find sincere ways to compliment her not related to her looks unless you are complimenting her hair or her eyes. You will go a lot further telling her that she has the most amazing eyes. Other guys will talk about her breasts and bottom, don’t you go there.
4 Women want a guy who is ready to make a sincere and honest comitment to a relationship and is serious minded. If you just want sex, this is a deal breaker. Don’t even talk about sex at first, or worse yet ask her for it. Women don’t want to have sex unless and until they are in a committed relationship. Once the subject of sex comes up, you can make real headway with her if you tell her that you refuse to have sex with her unless and until she is in a committed relationship with you. You can then kid her and tell her no matter how much she begs you, you are not that kind of guy.
5. You need to project an air of self confidence. Women are turned on by a guy who is self confident. Plan the dates you want to take her on and take the lead in setting them up. Under NO circumstances text her, call her on the phone.
With these 5 tips in place in your mind when you are trying to have a relationship with a woman who is above your standards, you can rest assured that your odds are way improved than they would have been otherwise.