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A Review of the Magic Jack Phone Service

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May 22 0

Chapter1It has been said that if something seems too good to be true it probably is.  That might have kept you from buying the Magic Jack  phone.

Well I have tried it and it is just as promised and more.  You get unlimited long distance for free and it is only $19.95 a year

 

What I did not know and they did not tell me is that they also offer free 411 service where other companies are charging like $1.50 for each lookup.

It also has free voice mail in the program and notifies you on your computer email when  you missed a call and will play it back as well as give you the phone number

 

Is it perfect, well no.  It has to be hooked up to your computer.  If you lose power you lose your phone.

Even Skype who used to be free is now charging for their service and I frankly like the Magic Jack better.

All you need to do is to load the software which is ridiculously simply.  Another thing that I love about it is that it shows you your call

log for all the incoming as well as outgoing calls which is a real life save at times.  In addition it also has free caller ID to let you see which incoming

number is calling you which is great for screening out unwanted calls including sales calls

 

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All The Sex Positive Messages in The Bible You Won’t Hear in Church or Sunday School

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SEX AND THE BIBLE, SURPRISING GOOD FACTS THAT YOU DID NOT KNOW

SEX AND THE BIBLE

Unfortunately, most people have the notion that you are not supposed to talk about sex in church. As a former minister of youth, I was castigated by some parents for teaching a high school class on the subject of what the bible defines as sexual sin. I was told: “you are not supposed to talk about sex in church.” At a seminar called Total Woman at our church, we had some women object because it contained sexual references and how a woman is supposed to take care of her husband. This feeling prevails even today in churches. My question is: Do you think that God made a mistake? How about those references in the Bible about sex? Should we tear those out of the Bible? Pastors and Sunday school teachers don’t dare teach or preach on the subject.

Today, we have a 50% divorce rate in the general population and 33% even among Christians. We have the highest divorce rate on the planet. What is really sad is the research that shows definitively the life-long damage done to children as the result of divorce. Couples fight about the big three: money, sex and kids. The bible is very clear on sexual issues between husband and wife. Because fighting is common over sex, there is a scripturally mandated ministry in Titus 2:4-5 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands that the word of God be not blasphemed. KJV

Kinsey Research shows that fully 72% of women over thirty only want sex once a week. Sadly they inflict that schedule on their husbands. Now I know that there are exceptions and sometimes it is the wife with a high libido and a husband who does not want it as much. Our purpose is to cover the majority of the people out there. We will consider what the bible says as we are commanded to do in living our lives.

It says in Proverbs: Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as a loving hind and a pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee AT ALL TIMES; and be thou ravished ALWAYS with her love. Most women feel that they have a perfect right to reject her husband’s sexual overtures any time she feels like it. This is what is taught by the feminists. On the other hand, when is the last time that you ever saw a feminist point anyone to Jesus? Is there any thing in the above passage that you could interpret to get that permission? Ravished is a biblical word for not only giving your husband sex, but giving him GREAT SEX. When you give him sex willing and lovingly, it is called appropriately MAKING LOVE because of the feelings that it engenders on his part. God made it a powerful bonding agent between a man and a woman. When you refuse your husband’s sexual overtures, the converse is, you are MAKING RESENTMENT. Every time he is forced to masturbate to relieve his sexual tensions, you create resentment. Many times he will resort to pornography for arousal. The bible forbids us to be a “stumbling block” in Romans 14:13, Mathew 18:7.

Let the husband render unto the wife due benevelolence; and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife doth not have power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one another, except it be with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, so that Satan tempt you not for your incontinence. I Corinthians 7:3-5

If you read this, there is no way that you can interpret that the wife has a right to say no to her husband. Nevertheless, so many of you do with impunity in defiance of God’s word.

So many women try to relate to their husband’s sexuality through their own. Men’s sexuality is driven by semen build-up. Remember the time when you were pregnant. It is a fact of life that a pregnant woman has to urinate more often because the baby is pressing on your bladder. You can’t help it. Now let us play role reversal here for a minute. Think about your husband feeling the same way as you do, because that is what a man’s sexual drive feels like. He does not have a choice when he needs relief. Let us role play here further. Imagine that you are in a car with him on a long trip and you are pregnant. You say; “honey, can you pull over because I have to go to the bathroom.” Now let us pretend that your husband answers you like so many women answer their husband’s requests for sex: What you want to go to the bathroom again, is that all you can ever think about? Do you have a one track mind? What are you some kind of urination addict? I am tired, I don’t feel like pulling over. Leave me alone and quit bugging me. Listen, maybe tomorrow I will pull over and let you go the bathroom. If men talked that way to their wives there would be such a huge outcry across the land.

For the most part women want sex once a week. For the most part men want sex 3-5 times a week. Let us compromise and say you give it to him 4 times a week. I can just hear the screams and howls from you women now. “NO WAY AM I DOING IT THAT OFTEN”. The average act takes about 30 minutes start to finish. If you actually gave your husband 4 times a week, that would come to two hours. Now out of 168 hours in the week, that represents only slightly more than one percent of your time. I say that if you can’t give your husband 1% of your time to nurture him and love him, your priorities are all wrong. God wants 10% and you can’t give your husband a lousy 1%? This is why most men are not very romantic, they figure, why bother? Most women don’t understand that it is the woman that inspires men to romance by how they treat him. From the time that you were a little girl, you dreamed about Happily Ever After. The problem with that dream is that has always been self-centered. You imagine the prince gazing upon you with rapt attention, but you never understand that the prince has needs that you need to satisfy. Because you don’t satisfy them, he stops being romantic.

God in the Old Testament allowed multiple wives and concubines for men to be able to satisfy their generally higher sex drives. God allowed this so that men would not commit adultery. Then in God’s progressive revelation, He changed it to where there was one man and one woman and it transitioned in Proverbs 31. The heart of the husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Proverbs 31: 11-12. Now many bible translators incorrectly translate the Hebrew word for spoil here as meaning earthly gain. This is incorrect. The old fashioned term spoil comes from the spoils of war.. This is where the invading army got to go in and take things from the homes of the killed opposing soldiers. One of the main things that they took were the women who were then destined to become secondary wives called concubines with a status only slightly above a slave. When the primary wife refused her husband’s sexual overtures, then it fell to the concubine to satisfy the man’s needs. Well Proverbs 31 here means that he shall have only one wife, but she is now obligated to satisfy all of his sexual needs. She honors his trust in her by taking care of him sexually. It reiterates that she shall do him good and not evil all the days of her life. How is denying your husband doing him good?
Finally, as parents and our parents have done, we have put so much emphasis on thou shalt not to daughters, many can’t relax and enjoy their sexuality as the gift that God made it and intended for it. As a coach, this is a common thing that I work with women on. Freeing them from inhibitions to enjoying their sexuality. The bible addresses this issue in part in Hebrews 13:4 where it says: Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; This means that there is nothing that you and your husband can do in bed that is wrong. You need to relax, enjoy your sexuality and understand that biblically you don’t have the right to say no. If you do, I promise that you will see your husband be much more attentive and actually develop some romantic tendencies. Whether or not the relationship succeeds or fails is largely up to you the wife. I will leave you with one last biblical warning: “Every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish one plucks it down with her hands.” Proverbs 14:1 The house being referred to here is her husband as in the house of David. We are not talking about actual construction issues.

Try it God’s way for 30 days and you will be amazed at the difference in your marriage and ultimate happiness. Happily Ever After is possible if you follow God’s plan for marriage.Chapter1

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8 Flirting Tips for Women Guaranteed to Bring a Shy Guy Out of His Shell and Chase You

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Chapter1This is a great re-blog by Dr Diana Kirschner from drdiana.lovein90days.com
Now here are eight flirting tips that will help bring a shy guy out of his shell:

1. See him when he is in his element.

If he plays sports, go watch.  Be there as he finishes a marathon. If he is giving a talk, try to arrange to be in the audience.  When a shy guy is in his element he will be at the height of his charisma and at a high point of self-confidence.  Bottom line: he will be feeling very good about himself.  And this means he will feel empowered to make a move on you if he is really interested.

2. Compliment him.

Notice something about him or what he is doing that you really like and praise it with a specific and sincere compliment. For example, That blog you wrote about going to Sicily was hysterically funny and made me want to go! This builds his self-esteem and will tend to get him to talk more about the topic.  And it may even get him to show off a bit for you.

3. Say his name a lot; give him a complimentary nickname.

This indicates that you are noticing him and that he is important to you.  He will bond more quickly with you when you use his name.  Also, choose a complimentary nickname based on one of his qualities that you admire.  For example, if he is into playing baseball, call him “Jeter.”  This will get him to laugh and open up with you about his baseball experiences.

4. Ask open-ended questions.

Good examples are, “How did you get interested in (your job)?” “What brought you to live in the city?”  “How do you manage to train for a triathlon when you work full-time?” These kinds of questions will help a shy guy open up and talk about himself.  And this will lead to him feeling known and being comfortable with you.

5. Ask for help with something.

Men love to help women.  They are biologically wired that way!  Ask him to fix your computer, your car, your bike, your door–you name it.  He will enjoy coming through for you and feel much more connected to you.  Ask him questions about what he is doing–this will get him talking more. When he is in the “helper” role he is much more likely to share with you.

6. Ask what he likes to eat or what sports, hobbies, or movies he likes.  Once you find something in common, ask him if he’d like to do it some time.

Shy guys can be very interested in you, but petrified to make the first move.  It is very easy to open the door to a common interest by asking about food, hobbies or other fun activities.  When you hit on something you both love, you will instantly become more bonded.  It is easy, then to make the first move and ask about doing the activity together.  This is a good litmus test that will show if he is interested or not.  When you are opening the door that much, if he does not respond and make the date, chances are he is not into you.

7. When leaving, say you’d like to see him again.

This is an easy, non-threatening way to show that you are interested in him.  If he responds positively, by smiling, nodding or saying “yes” he may be feeling some attraction to you.  At that point, make sure he has your contact information!

8. Make Physical Contact With Him

If you’ve spent some time together, make physical contact with him. Being physical releases oxytocin, the bonding hormone so he may feel closer and start responding to you immediately. In addition, touching him gives him permission to make an affectionate gesture towards you later on–where he holds your hand, puts his arm around you or kisses you.

So practice some or all of these flirting tips and you’ll be an expert at bringing out the best in guys.

Wishing you love

Dr. Diana

 

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3 Reasons Divorced Men Make the Best Boyfriends

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May 19 0

This is a great guest post from the online mag Your Tango

 

3 Reasons Divorced Men Make Better Boyfriends

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Trust us, a divorcé will be the best boyfriend you’ve ever had.

A recent study conducted by the Marriage Foundation revealed a surprising statistic: although 45 percent of marriages end in divorce, only 31 percent of second marriages fail. This got me thinking. As a 30-something,single gal looking to settle down, perhaps I have been searching down the wrong path? Maybe the assumption that divorced equals baggage is contradictory to the actual truth of the matter. I pondered this article for quite some time and ultimately decided that perhaps divorced men do, in fact, make better boyfriends. Here’s why:

1. He won’t want to fail again. Remember the episode of Friends when Ross’ neurosis hits an all-time high at the prospect of a second (and then a third) divorce? This fear can serve as a strong motivator to get it right the second time around. I would venture to guess that men are more willing to do the work and keep their relationships strong, fulfilling and everlasting.

More from YourTango: 3 Tips On Getting Over A Fling

More from YourTango: 5 Songs To Empower the Recently Rejected

2. He’s learned from his mistakes.Relationships are learning experiencing and when one endures the finality of divorce, he is forced to reflect upon his actions. Perhaps he learned to listen more or spend less time at the office and has since changed his ways.  This may be too late for the relationship in question, but it bodes well for the next woman in his life

 

 

 

 

If he’s signed divorce papers, that might mean he’s a keeper!

 

Trust us, a divorcé will be the best boyfriend you’ve ever had.

3. He is open to commitment. I have dated my fair share of eligible bachelors over the last year who ran at the teensiest sign of commitment. My latest mishap, Mr. Smooth (detailed further in my blog), got antsy committing to a Saturday night so I venture to guess settling down for the rest of his life is a bit out of the question. Needless to say, our courtship was short-lived but the fear of meeting man after man who is sewing his oats throughout his thirties stayed with me. A divorced man is at his core, most likely open tomarriage and commitment which is vital for a healthy and happy relationship.

Final Disclaimer: I urge all you single ladies out there to give divorced men a chance. After all, their experiences may enhance your own relationship. However, proceed with caution if thedivorce is fairly recent. A meaningful relationship with a man who has learned from his mistakes is one thing, serving as someone’s rebound from a hurtful experience is quite another

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6 Sex Mistakes that Women Make and How To Fix Them

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May 12 0

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WebMD explains the 6 biggest sex mistakes women make and reasons why women make them.

Lisa Zamosky
WebMD Feature

Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD

Ladies, be honest: when your sex life becomes a little humdrum, out comes the mental catalogue of all the ways your partner isn’t quite measuring up.  Guys tend to get a bad rap when it comes to understanding women’s bodies and what turns us on, making them easy targets in the blame game when sexual satisfaction starts to wane.  And sure, they make their fair share of bedroom errors. But as the saying goes, it takes two to tango. As it turns out, top sex and relationship experts say that women make plenty of sex mistakes of their own.  Here’s what they have to say about the six most common mistakes women make in the bedroom and what you can do to get the satisfaction you so rightly deserve.

 

Sex Mistake #1: Not Initiating Sex With Your Partner

Many of us worry about ladylike behavior.  We don’t want to appear pushy or come on too strong for fear of being labeled aggressive. According to Les Parrot, professor of psychology at Seattle Pacific University and author of a new book called Crazy Good Sex, failing to initiate sex is one of the biggest mistakes women make.

“Most guys feel like they are always the initiator and that sets up disequilibrium on the passion scale in the relationship,” he says.  Generally, men want to be pursued by their partners just as much as women do.

Holding onto outdated ideas about sex roles also inhibits satisfaction with our  sexual relationships, says “Dr. Ruth,” aka Ruth Westheimer, PhD, a psychosexual therapist, professor at New York University, and lecturer at Yale and Princeton universities.  “They used to think that women are less interested in sexual activity and I don’t want to say that anymore. I think there are women who are as interested in sex [as men].”

Show your interest by taking the first step from time to time.  Your partner will likely appreciate it, and you may find a new level of satisfaction in taking responsibility for your sexual experience, something Westheimer feels strongly women must do.

Sex Mistake #2: Worrying About What You Look Like

Thinking about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself and ruins your chances of achieving an orgasm.

“Don’t think about the fat on your belly or the makeup on your face,” advises Westheimer.  “Concentrate on the pleasure of the act.  You must give yourself permission to have an orgasm.”

“Men want their wives to abandon themselves in sex play, and that’s not likely if she is anxious about her physical concerns,” Parrott says.

 

Sex Mistake #3: Assuming Sex Is Casual for a Man

Westheimer believes we should all let go of old-fashioned notions, such as women are not sexual or that sex is just sex to men.  “For some men, sex is a very important act.  Don’t minimize it.”

The research, says Parrott, supports the idea that both men and women find sexual intimacy in the context of a committed relationship to be more satisfying.

“Numerous research studies make it very clear that the people who have the best quality and most frequent sex are married couples. That says a lot about the inadequacies of ‘casual sex,” Parrot says.

In a study being conducted by Fisher and her colleagues of university students engaging in one-night stands, the numbers show that men are just as serious about sex and relationships as women.  In fact, more than 50% of women and 52% of men who went into a one-night stand, according to Fisher, reported that they did so hoping to create a longer relationship.  One-third of them actually did so.  What’s the lesson?

“Never assume that a man is not romantic,” Fisher says. “Two huge mistakes in this culture are that women are not sexual and that men are not as romantic [as women].”

Sex Mistake #4: Believing He’s Always Up for Sex

Sure, most teenage boys are ready and willing just about any time you ask, but not true for men.  The pressures of everyday life — family, work, bills — can zap a man’s libido.  This comes as a big surprise to many women, and often his lack of interest in sex is something we take personally.

“It comes as such a shock [to women] that they just don’t believe it,” Fisher says about the reaction many women have when their partner says they aren’t in the mood for sex. “They know themselves that they are not always interested in sex but they still love the man.  But when they discover he doesn’t want to have sex, they think, ‘he doesn’t love me.’  Not true.  He just doesn’t want to have sex.”

 

 

Sex Mistake #5: Not Giving Him Guidance

Talking very directly about sex, what we like and don’t like can make us feel uncomfortable, even with a partner we’ve been with for a long time and otherwise feel close to, says Parrott. But it’s the only way to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship.

“A woman must take responsibility for her sexual encounter,” says Westheimer.  “No man can bring a woman to orgasm if she doesn’t take responsibility for her sexual experience.  Even the best lover can’t know what she needs without her letting him know.”

The good news, according to Fisher, is that men very much want to please women.

“If you can tell them in a way that doesn’t kill their ego, they will appreciate it,” says Fisher.  She advises women to sandwich what they don’t like in between five things they do, because he’s listening.  “You won’t find out until the next time you’re in bed with him.  But men do listen, particularly if you’re quite clear about it.”

Sex Mistake #6: Getting Upset When He Suggests Something New

After a couple has been together for a while, it’s natural to want to spice things up with a little variety.  Just because your man wants to try something new doesn’t mean he’s unhappy with you or your sex life.  In short: Don’t take it personally.

Still, it’s important that you tune into your comfort zone says Parrott.

“Nobody should ever feel obligated to do something they don’t want to do in the personal and intimate area of sexuality,” Parrott says.  “If your man asks you about trying something that’s outside of your morals, make it clear that it’s off limits for you and explain why.  Of course, do this in a loving way as best you can.  If it is something that is not really a moral issue for you but you still don’t want to, again explain why.  If it is a simply a startling request and you’re initially uneasy about it, try not to overreact.  Instead, let him know you need some time to think about it.

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Things to Consider for First Time Sex Toy Buyers

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This is a guest post about buying sexual aids to improve your sex life, ENJOY

John Wilder

 

 

 

Everyone that pretty much lives and breathes wild times in the bedroom has to buy his or her first ever sex toy and chances are everyone goes through the same period of doubt and worry. After all, with thousands on the market it pretty much goes without saying that not every ‘tool’ out there is the best for every job.

So with this in mind, here are a few tips from the experts when it comes to buying a sex toy for the first time:

Keep it Simple

Firstly, the biggest and most important piece of advice that outweighs all others is to keep it small and simple. Chances are that if you take home the world’s most enormous and terrifyingly proportioned vibrator first time around, it might be the last time you bother. There are so many sex toys and gadgets you can pick up that are effortless to use and guaranteed to take things to a new level, without scaring the living daylights out of you. From cock rings to vibrating eggs and even through to things as simple as gels and oils to make that first step, it’s all about staying in your comfort zone and saving the industrial-strength appliances for later…if you decide to keep going.

 

Follow Advice

Next up, use an online sex retailer that offers concise yet comprehensive advice on every kind of sex toy, with tips as to which ones in the catalogue are the best for first-time buyers. Chances are you won’t be thrilled with the idea of discussing your intimacies with the guy behind the counter as the sex shop on the High Street, so be sure instead to take some advice from the best online retailer you can find.

Keep it Cheap

And finally, don’t forget that for pretty obvious reasons you won’t be able to get your money back if you decide you’ve bought the wrong thing – the advice therefore being not to get carried away with spending. Easy enough though, as for less than a tenner you can pick up the kind of supplies needed to give you and yours a pretty good taste of what you’ve been missing…and then the fun and games really begin!

 

By Brian Bell

Brian Bell is calling upon his years of experience in the sex retail industry to try and convert Australia by letting the public know there is so much more to what’s on offer than huge dildos and painfully kinky gadgets.

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Finally a Politician Who is NOT POLITICALLY CORRECT and Speaks in Common Sense

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You won’t see this in your local paper at least south of Maine.

Subject:  Meet Maine’s New Governor
Meet Maine’s New Governor — In case you haven’t heard about this guy before, his name will stick in your mind!
The new Maine Governor, Paul LePage is making New Jersey’s Chris Christie look timid. He isn’t afraid to say what he thinks. Judging by the comments, every time he opens his mouth, his popularity goes up.He brought down the house at his inauguration when he shook his fist toward the media box and said, “You’re on notice! I’ve inherited a financially troubled State to run. Observe…cover what we do…but don’t whine if I don’t waste time responding to your every whim just for your amusement.”During his campaign for Governor, he was talking to commercial fishermen who are struggling because of federal fisheries rules. They complained that 0bama brought his family to Bar Harbor and Acadia National Park for a long Labor Day holiday and found time to meet with union leaders, but wouldn’t talk to the fishermen. LePage replied, “I’d tell him to go to hell and get out of my State.” The Lame Stream Media crucified LePage, but he jumped 6 points in the pre-election poll.The Martin Luther King incident was a political sandbag, which brought him national exposure. The ‘lame stream’ media crucified him, but word on the street is very positive. The NAACP specifically asked LePage to spend MLK Day visiting black inmates at the Maine State Prison. He told them that he would meet with ALL inmates, regardless of race, if he were to visit the prison. The NAACP balked and then put out a news release claiming falsely that he refused to participate in any MLK events. He read it in the paper for the 1st time the next morning while being driven to an event and went ballistic because none of the reporters had called him for comment before running the NAACP release.

He arrived at that event & said in front of a TV camera, “If they want to play the race card on me they can kiss my ass”, and he reminded them that he has an adopted black son from Jamaica and that he attended the local MLK Breakfast every year that he was mayor of Waterville. (He started his morning there on MLK Day.)

He then stated that there’s a right way and a wrong way to meet with the Governor, and he put all special interests on notice that press releases, media leaks, and all demonstrations would prove to be the wrong way. He said any other group, which acted like the NAACP could expect to be at the bottom of the Governor’s priority list!

He then did the following, and judging from local radio talk show callers, his popularity increased even more: The State employees union complained because he waited until 3 P.M. before closing State offices and facilities and sending non-emergency personnel home during the last blizzard. The prior Governor would often close offices for the day with just a forecast before the first flakes. (Each time the State closes for snow, it costs the taxpayers about $1 million in wages for no work in return.)

LePage was CEO of the Marden’s chain of discount family bargain retail stores before election as governor. He noted that State employees getting off work early could still find lots of retail stores open to shop. So, he put the State employees on notice by announcing: “If Marden’s is open, Maine is open!”

He told State employees: “We live in Maine in the winter, for heaven’s sake, and should know how to drive in it. Otherwise, apply for a State job in Florida !”

Governor LePage symbolizes what America needs; Refreshing politicians who aren’t self-serving and who exhibit common sense.THE LAW IS THE LAW!I really love this one.This is one of the better e-mails I have received in a long time! I hope this makes its way around the USA several times over!!!!! HERE IS WHAT Governor LaPage said,

“THE LAW IS THE LAW So “if” the US government determines that it is against the law for the words “under God” to be on our money, then, so be it.

And “if” that same government decides that the “Ten Commandments” are not to be used in or on a government installation, then, so be it.

I say, “so be it,” because I would like to be a law abiding US citizen

I say, “so be it,” because I would like to think that smarter people than I are in positions to make good decisions.

I would like to think that those people have the American public’s best interests at heart.

BUT, he said, “YOU KNOW WHAT ELSE I’D LIKE?

Since we can’t pray to God, can’t Trust in God and cannot post His Commandments in Government buildings, I don’t believe Government (Federal, State and Local) and its employees should participate in Easter and Christmas celebrations which honor the God that our government is eliminating from many facets of American life.

I’d like my mail delivered on Christmas, Good Friday, Thanksgiving & Easter. After all, it’s just another day.

I’d like the” US Supreme Court to be in session on Christmas, Good Friday, Thanksgiving & Easter as well as Sundays.” After all, it’s just another day.

I’d like the Senate and the House of Representatives to not have to worry about getting home for the “Christmas Break.” After all it’s just another day.

I’m thinking a lot of my taxpayer dollars could be saved, if all government offices & services would work on Christmas, Good Friday & Easter. It shouldn’t cost any overtime since those would be just like any other day of the week to a government that is trying to be “politically correct.”

In fact….I think our government should work on Sundays (AFTER ALL, It was initially set aside for worshipping God….) because, AFTER ALL, our government says that it should be Just ANOTHER DAY….”

What do you all think???? If this idea gets to enough people, maybe our elected officials will stop giving in to the “minority opinions” and begin, once again, to represent the “majority” of ALL of the American people.

SO BE IT………..Please Dear Lord, Give us the help needed to keep you in our country! ‘Amen’ and ‘Amen’ Touché!

If this gets around the country a few times, perhaps we will see a better day!
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How To Romance Men Ideas for Women

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temporary1It will come as a shock to many women that you should also be romancing your husband as well.

Here is why:  It builds his self esteem and makes him feel loved and cherished.  It helps create a stronger

bond between the two of you.  Isn’t that reason enough?

 

Some tips on how to romance your man.  The first thing that I recommend is to ask him in what ways

that he would like to be romanced.  Every guy will have different ideas about that but flowers are NOT

the way to do it.  We simply don’t react to them the way that you do.

 

Become sexually adventurous and give him sex willingly and lovingly.

Wear lacy and frilly lingerie.  It is not slutty but sophisticated.  It is time to abandon

those little girl virginal white panties with no lace and by the way cotton panties only belong

on little girls and little old ladies, not sophisticated women like you.  Wear a short dress or skirt

when you go out with him and flash him when he opens the car door for you,  Most men love looking up

your skirt or dress and seeing panties, it makes our whole day.  It is a simple thing that costs you nothing

but pays huge dividends in his love bank.

 

Instead of always making him approach you for sex, you be the aggressor once in a while.  It makes him feel like

he still has it and makes him feel loved and cherished.

 

Be willing to discuss his and your fantasies and give him the ones you feel comfortable with and he will reciprocate.

Go skinny dipping with him.  It will make you and him feel very naughty and the feeling of swimming naked is incredible, everyone

should try it at least once.

 

Finally give him a treat and wear sexy nightgowns every night not just when you are going to have sex.  BTW most men need sex 3-4

times a week, why would you force him to do without sex against his will?

 

Now how about leaving your favorite way to romance your man in the comments section? For more ideas

ask for my soon to be published book if you will promise to review it when it is published

 

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10 Tips for Men to Last Longer in Bed, Give Their Partners More Pleasure and Get More Sex for Them

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Sex Educationby MarriageCoach1

This is a great guest post from Mens Health Magazine that routinely publishes sexual instruction in their magazine.  Enjoy

with my compliments.

Sex Educationby MarriageCoach1

My soon to be published book.  Let me know if you want an advance pre publication copy for free if you will subscribe to the blog and write a review

 

Master Masturbation
Masturbate with a woman’s orgasm in mind, not your own. In other words, take your time: Work up to 15 minutes. Bring yourself close to the point of no return, but don’t let yourself ejaculate until time is up.

Squeeze
If you’re overheating during sex, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis, focusing the pressure on the urethra—the tube running along the underside of the penis. This pushes blood out of the penis and momentarily represses the ejaculatory response.

Pinpoint Ejaculatory Inevitability
The process of sexual response has four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. The trick is to recognize the spectrum of feelings throughout the process. Rate your sexual excitement on a scale of 1 to 10. Try keeping yourself at 7.

Sexercise

A Kegel is an exercise that helps tighten muscles responsible for ejaculatory control. Become familiar with them by cutting off the flow of urine and then starting and stopping it repeatedly. Once you have the exercise down, practice your Kegels anywhere: at your desk, behind the wheel. Tighten your muscles and hold for a count of 10, then release.

Press, Don’t Thrust

Press the end of your penis into her clitoral head. Linger in her vaginal entrance, where the most sensitive nerve endings are. When you do have intercourse, focus on small, shallow movements that penetrate the first 2 to 3 inches of her vagina.

Show a Little Courtesy
Ladies first, gentlemen—and we’re talking about more than just holding the door open. When you help her have an orgasm first, it relieves you of some of the pressure to please and the psychological anxiety that feeds into PE.

Ask Your Doctor About Prozac
A recent study showed that 73 percent of men who suffered from premature ejaculation either were cured or improved after taking 20 milligrams of Prozac a day for a week and 40 mg thereafter.

Go for a Second Round
Shrug off an early emission with some extra attention to her arousal (yes, it means staying awake), then getting back in the saddle. Most men last much longer the second time around. And the more you practice, the longer that first time will last.

Let Her Climb On
When she’s on top, your penis is less stimulated. And ask her to go slowly—long and fast thrusting is hazardous to a man’s endurance.

 

Stop Thinking of Your Orgasm
The area of the brain responsible for triggering orgasm is engaged whether you’re trying to have one or halt one. The more attention you give it, the more likely it is to arrive. Focus on what’s happening now—her silky thighs on your hips, say—and you’ll diffuse pleasure throughout your whole body.
Read more: http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/Last_Longer_in_Bed/Stop_Thinking_of_Your_Orgasm.php#ixzz2Ncyq8rPA

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8 Sure Fire Ways for Women To Become Marriage Material

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Mar 12 2

This is a guest post from Yahoo Love and Sex.  Women you need to pay attention to your sexuality and get rid of those “little girl” inhibitions and become a fully functioning highly sexual woman if you want a happy marriage.  You also need to get rid of those virginal white nylon panties with no lace and trade them in for some sexy panties with lace and color.

  Sadly churches only teach all the negative messages about sex and never teach you all the sex positive messages from the bible about sex.  If you would like to get my Sex and The Bible article showing all the great sex positive messages from the Bible, send me an email requesting it to marriagecoach1@yahoo.com

John Wilder

 

After This You’ll Be 8-Steps Closer to Being the “Marrying Kind”

By QuickieChick | Love + Sex – 13 hours ago

 

by QuickieChick Laurel House

Engagement RingWhat makes you the marrying kind? What compels a man to choose you over everyone else, to kneel down at your feet on one knee and ask you to be his wife?

Being the “Marrying Kind” is a complex dance, a balancing act, a study of opposites. Still, there are 8 main elements that make for wife material… and all 8 have been perfectly exemplified in this season of “The Bachelor”…:

1. Confidence
Guys want to feel like they won the prize, like they are dating the head of the cheer-leading team. They want to feel like they are the luckiest guy in the room. If you have a bummer, insecure, self-deprecating, “I’m not so great” attitude, why would he feel like he scored? Be confident. That doesn’t mean cocky, rude, arrogant, egotistical, or self-involved. That means self-assured, capable, believing in yourself and your abilities- whatever those abilities are.

2. Strength
Can you stand tall when he experiences moments of weakness? Or will you wither and collapse without having his strength? Can you take care of business and hold your own if need be? That strength takes some of the pressure off him, and allows him to want to be strong for you, as opposed to making him feel like he has to be strong for you.

3. Vulnerability
Exposing your weaknesses maybe seem to be the opposite of strength, but it’s just as important (and even sexy). Showing your fragility, your pain points, your insecurities and even revealing things that you have done that you are not proud of or regret… now that takes confidence. It can also shine a light even brighter on your strengths. How? If he knows that you have certain fears, and then he watches you tackle them anyway- even if you fail, that shows strength and determination, it shows your will. Letting him in on your vulnerabilities also shows him that you need him, that you can’t always fend for yourself, that you want him to take care of you. And guys love that. They love to feel wanted, more than that- they love to feel needed. It gives them a sense of purpose and duty.

You also need to show him that he makes you feel vulnerable- in a good way… the best way- because your heart is open. Show him how much you love him. Tell him how crazy you are about him. Let him know that you have never felt this way before. Your emotional vulnerability makes him feel more confident about your feelings for him, and therefore more confident that you won’t turn him down or leave him.
“THE BACHELOR” EXAMPLE: Sean needed every girl to tell him “I love you,” even though he couldn’t say it back. It was her way of showing him how serious she is and how in deep she is for him. If she can’t say it, if she can’t go there- exposing her heart… she’s out.

Still, again, it’s a balance. There are some things that you shouldn’t reveal… Watch: “Why Hating Your Body is Destroying Your Sex Life”…

4. Nurturing
You can be vulnerable, and show him that you need him, but you also can take care of him. No matter how strong, independent and masculine he is, all men love to be nurtured, taken care of, and even babied at times. Showing him that you can be a nurturer lets him know that he can put his guard down and that it’s ok and safe to need you. And then you’ve got him… When a guy exposes weakness, when he lets you in to see his vulnerable side, that’s where the power lies. And I’m not saying that in a way that’s game playing or manipulative. This isn’t to take advantage. This is to get in and stay in. It’s to create a feeling and a place of safety with you.
WATCH: This Video Could Save Your Marriage… Literally.

5. Fun
You’ve got to be able to be silly together. Life and work can be so stressful! Your partner is the one person who you can let your guard down around. At home or out, when no one else is watching, that’s when it’s safe to do ridiculous dances, speak in strange voices, just be you- not the “appropriate,” contrived, careful-what-you-say-and-do side that you exhibit in the office or even around friends. Don’t be afraid to let go, let loose, get out of your box, dance in the rain, even eat bugs in Thailand (like Lindsay did on “The Bachelor”) and have simple silly fun!
“THE BACHELOR” EXAMPLE: You have to balance the fun with depth. On “The Bachelor,” Sean feared that Lindsay, who entered the show wearing a wedding dress, at first appeared as the too happy-go-lucky type who lacked emotional depth. He soon learned that she had a lot of complexity beneath her free spirit. But she was close to be off’ed because she initially lacked the balance.

6. Laugh
Along the same lines as having fun, but even more basic- laugh out loud, and a lot! Laughter isn’t just medicine, it’s a stress reliever and an emotional connector. It creates levity and breeds light and life! Don’t always take yourself (or him) so seriously. Guys want to feel funny (yes, even the seemingly serious types like to know they can tell a good joke). And when you laugh, make it authentic and don’t hold back. Forget the polite little giggle. Let it out! Sometimes you have to put yourself in the headspace to laugh, telling yourself to take it easy, get out of that serious mode and allow your mood to lighten.
“THE BACHELOR” EXAMPLE: Despite the fact that AshLee seemingly was “everything that I was looking for” and the best for him “on paper,” it was her too intense energy that ultimately turned Sean off. What did he mean? They didn’t laugh as much as he did with Catherine and Lindsay.

7. Happy / Make Him Feel Good!
At the end of the day, a guy wants to feel good. He wants to be happy, to laugh, to have fun- yes, but more than that, he wants to be content. He wants to be able to sit next to you watching TV, or lay there with you at night, and just be… be happy. He wants to feel enlivened by your smile, refueled by your belief in him, and at peace in your presence. He wants to feel smart, funny, strong, needed, important, successful, and hot! He wants you to be proud of him. He wants to feel like he is the most important thing in the world, the center of your universe (just like his mom made him feel). And you, more than anyone else, have the ability to make him feel that way.
“THE BACHELOR” EXAMPLE: Catherine and her many many compliments to Sean of how much of a “hunk” he is.

8. Pride
Just as he wants you to be proud of him, he wants to be proud of you. You aren’t his dirty little secret, his momentary hook-up, his friend, or even just his girlfriend. You are his choice- the best he can do. And he wants to feel proud of you. Whether it’s your looks, brain, triumphs, the respect you garner, your career, or simply how you push yourself through pain points and get out of box, he wants to feel like he can show you off…. Someone he can “bring home to mom.”

Oh… and someone who he has insane sexual chemistry with is essential too. Yes- “a lady on the streets and a freak in the sheets!”

xx
Laurel

Laurel HouseLaurel House is a LifeStylist, Dating and Relationship Expert, 4x published Lifestyle Author, and nationally recognized Print and Online Magazine

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